The rules are basically the same for teens, the middle aged and seniors, first date or last date, girls or guys Primary rule – girls and guys, treat your date with dignity and respect; this applies to online dating as well Don’t know what dignity and respect are? Broaden your vocabulary beyond a few repetitive expletives No drunkenness.Being stoned or wasted only gets a laugh from your yobbo mates at your expense Act like a lady or gentleman. It must come from the heart Be that way during your first date right until your last and see what a difference it will make to you, your date's and your life Do not expect your prospect to be available for a date at short notice Ask a few days in advance of the proposed date Set a meeting time and if possible an ending time If the person cannot or will not be available for a date at the second request – they are not interested Don’t push the issue.Guys, be prepared to pay for the date (especially the first one) Subsequent ones can be worked out in due course when you know a bit more about each other Never spring it on her to 'cough up' If you pay, understand that there must be no strings attached Girls, be considerate - offer to pay half OR to buy the drinks or something to show that you are not a freeloader. Then there can be no strings attached and you can maintain your independence But don’t sweat the issue - you could talk about it on the way to the venue so that you are prepared You could offer to cook a meal or bring a picnic basket to the next date if there is the possibility of a follow up date Be prepared ahead of time to have a few topics for light hearted conversation; nothing too controversial No strong opinions please Remember that the objective of a date is generally to assess the potential of coming together to be a couple in a close permanent relationship in so far as permanency goes Never stand up your date Postpone rather than cancel Do not just fail to show up. Say – please, thank you, after you, you’re welcome, etc Acknowledge each others’ courtesies with a smile and/or ‘thank you’ Show a keen interest in your date Make frequent eye contact (do not leer) Use their name – frequently.
Americans tend to define politeness in terms of "friendliness": smiling, telling "white lies" to avoid hurting people's feelings, pretending to like people even if we don't, saying "Hi, how are you? Germans, however, tend to consider "respect" to be the proper way to show "politeness", and "respect" assumes that the other person wants an honest answer, not some pretty little "white lie".
So, if you're really wanting your ego stroked, DON'T ask him, "So, how d'you like my new dress? Likewise, DON'T EVER say anything to him "just to be nice" if you don't really mean it; he is too likely to take you quite literally at your word and then be terribly hurt later when he finds out that you didn't really mean it.
, which has been collapsed due to question merging: Formal US-style dating is not common in Germany.
The way couples get together is that they are friends-of-friends, acquaintances, notice each other at birthday parties of someone etc, hang around together, and converge into a couple. "Dating" is discussed as a typical American phenomenon, a strange foreign ritual with details unknown over here.
Play it by ear If you promise to ring or contact your date again, you must do it – within a reasonable time frame or do not make the offer Try no more than twice It’s OK to date others until you have clearly come to an understanding or are going steady It is best to discuss your intentions with sensitivity and patience Keep practicing good manners Remember – dignity and respect If these tips on Dating Etiquette have been helpful to you and could help your friends, please send them an e-mail link to this page or our page on Online Dating Etiquette You may also be interested in - Club Etiquette Can't find what you are looking for?