I would think the universal truth that characteristics that make a good partner are not predicated by race and ethnicity is understood by all. Nazaree Hines-Starr, a full time pharmacist and author, recently published a book called Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man. Before I even begin to dissect the problematic nature of such a premise, let me just share a bit of Hines-Starr’s background and the reasoning she shares for dating and marrying a Jewish man.
All throughout college, graduate school and all of her twenties Hines-Starr, a black woman, dated only black men who shared her religious background.
I know that since there are far too many, black men berating and degrading black women, some of you will argue that she’s just looking out for numero uno, giving them a taste of their own medicine, trying not to be left behind as she pledges allegiance to black men and black men alone. I just hope black people, men and women alike, haven’t reduced the phenomenon of finding love into some type of calculated trip to the market where you pass up the brand you’ve known and grown up with in favor of something new and exotic.
A group of friends – six of us in total, one happened to be African – went out to partake in the “White Night” festivities taking place throughout the city.
The start to the evening was wonderful, with hundreds of people walking around, live music and lots of cheer – people all around were laughing and enjoying themselves.
One of the young men answered by putting his finger to my friend’s face and angrily told him, “you don’t talk.” The other man started to scream, “What happened?
What happened,” as if he had been personally offended.
And personally, I, Veronica, believe that while black men are flawed like all men, you’ll never catch me out here denouncing all of them.